'... Now remain in my love'

What does it mean to remain?  I see a bud on a vine, completely inseparable.  Only love can cause the branch to grow; true love coursing through the very veins of life.  My success and failure absolutely dependent on that union/extension/growth.  The shape of my life patterned on the DNA of Christ the vine, and the fruit nothing to do with me - not within my gift to produce, blossom or control...